Can't help it? Bullshit! What? Are you ten? Google Conner Habib. No, not his porn, but his writing about porn and sex and stuff.

In a word, hypocrisy. Why are men who have lots of sex often referred to as 'studs' and woman who do the same 'slags' or 'tarts' ? Surely, for 'studs' to have their fun, there has to be an equal number of 'slags'. Also, if you look these words up, the male version is positive ( a sexually talented male) and the feminine negative ( a woman generally disapproved of because she has had many sexual partners).
Hypocrisy pure a simple.

Ponygurl said:

Men aren't taught sex is wrong.

What?!

You already know my view, PG.  It's pretty simple, really.  Most men are not good at sex.  It's just the ramifications of that simple statement that are mind-blowing if you delve deep enough.

Are you going to give us the answer then WW?!

Fascinating questions WW!!! I commend your honesty as well, Thankyou! So are you saying that it is insecurity in men that has led to all this childish domination (leading to ghastly Wars, etc.)? It is interesting to note as well, slavery..in all of its forms. Why has Humankind continued to subject the world to slavery? Even Nature itself has been subject through Genetic Modification- which is a form of slavery.

When it comes to sex, the patriarchy has established a hierarchy. Everything that does not fit into its established rules falls lower on the chain and can then be made to feel less..thereby creating a system of domination and control. The Church patriarchy subjugated women as less- therein creating an illusion that women were not equals, only to then assign an entire gender certain roles. This was not love and hope which should be tied to a spiritual life..this was suppression and control of women.

Men fight amongst themselves for superiority, and when they lose to other men..they will lord over women. Why, why, why??? What I'm gathering is profound insecurity. There is just this ingrained need for dominance in the male. Why can't there be equality and respect amongst all living things? Why is there this drive for destruction within the male psyche? Why can't races co-exist peacefully? One man feels he must kill the other and take possession of whatever he's seeking. It is an illusion of power- the Human Race has assigned symbols to worldly things.( ie., Gold was not made precious and valuable until Man assigned it that particular meaning). In reality, Man needs food, water, shelter, and sex to survive..to keep the lineage going. Is Humankind still in such a state to feel desperate enough to kill and compete for these necessities?! It seems more the male's need for dominance. Is this dominance derived from insecurity? Is it an innate fear of other males?

Dam, I gotta sign off- but I absolutely love these deep discussions- ttyl!

When will men learn that they can't control women?!

I look at other parts of the world where they cover women in hijabs or burqas- absolutely insane. It is a deep-rooted fear that the woman will perhaps have sex with another male besides themselves. Instead of women being worshipped and loved for their feminine beauty- it is covered because of the male's insecurity. A deep, and fearful insecurity that they may not sire the offspring. Instead of admitting it, they chose to impose repressive rules.

There is nothing like insecurity to convert human beings into tyrants. Patriarchy makes male insecurities worse by feeding the illusion that if only they had unlimited power over women, they could address their insecurities. Unfortunately, insecurities can only be addressed by reason, introspection, human trust, a willingness to accept gender reality - and science.