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KatRobin

Hi Hells, its all going very well thanks. The school is developing at a phenomenal rate and Im proud to say that Im now working for officially the best school of its kind in England and Wales. Its got plans to specialise further in the near future but I can't say more.

We are both well and happy. Catherine is thinking about teaching in Japan next year for a year or 2 and maybe Africa too. Not a reflection on our relationship, just her insatiable wanderlust which I have no right to compromise. If it happens then I plan to move at least 3 dogs and an alpaca in, plus a micro pig in the bath (thats our secret).

Always up for a meet up in Stammy- you've got my number, just give us some notice!

KatRobin

Crikey.... did I last post in October?! Shit the bed!

Well an awful lot has happened... work wise it's been more than full on and its been exhausting, but all is well there. On the last day of term I came thru my front door and burst into tears with exhaustion / stress, but Ive had a fortnight "off" so I guess Im ready for Round 2 tomorrow. Catherine has got a new FT job too and also starts tomorrow so plans for foreign travel are on hold.

I haven't been on here not only because I've been consumed by work, but I've had 2 months of continual illness and injury - first, the flu; then an injury at work; then norovirus; then a broken rib after a nasty fall. It prevented me going to see family at Christmas so that was a bit miserable for me, being home alone, but at least I got P and Q. It'll take a few more weeks to heal. On top of that Im looking at a shoulder op this year as it's damaged. So my mood has been pretty stressed / low and I've cut myself off from most things for a while. Apologies.

I'll try to keep my finger in as it were!

PS Brexit Bollox - enough to send anyone with any sense into a deep depression.

Ponygurl · Post edited by Ponygurl at 2019-01-08 13:03:11

I think your New Year's resolution should be a Spa day once a week- warm bath with essential oil by candlelight with glass of wine (in a plastic wine glass, in case it falls in) all while listening to soft piano. Then your girl can give you a nice, deep oil massage, focusing on your painful areas until you drift off into blissful sleep. You two should make time to do that for each other once a week, on weekends perhaps.

Urban_Tribesman

Just to let everyone know I’ve been in contact with @KatRobin. She’s had a bit of a torrid time since the beginning of the year, so has not had the time to come onto here. She’s alright though and pulling through and hopes to get back on here soon but she sends her love to everyone. She asked me if the old gang were still on here and I confirmed we all were. If you reply, add her @ in as a notification pops up on her emails so she will see your comment.

iuventus

Love you, @KatRobin!

Ponygurl

I feel your pain @KatRobin. I’m in the same boat (the titanic?) I even jacked-up my neck..disc herniation, ugh. I’m still going to work with said injury, so gabapentin, ibuprofen and muscle relaxers have been my 3 best friends. Like I always said, when life gives you lemons..add a liter of vodka and a spoonful of sugar to that motherfucker. Things will get better @KatRobin (esp. after the painpills and vodka)

KatRobin

Shyly peeking my conk round the door of the Frapp forum to find that yay! the old gang are still here and the love too :-*

It's Mr UT (of course) who has reached out that hand of loving kindness and encouraged me to come back and try to enter the only social circle Im interested in online, so here I am. It would be a total bore if I rolled off any more woes since the last time, but I will share the basics! ).....I quit the last job; have worked since on and off and fought extreme anxiety and age-related insecurity to get myself to carry on fighting (what I see is) a lost cause; I've withdrawn from friends and become reclusive ; lost interest in former hobbies....Most sadly, our darling boy Jakey dog (the Hairy Hobnob) passed away several weeks ago, only a month after forging a wonderful relationship with a new rescue dog, Daisy, who we got to keep him company as he seemed to be depressed after losing Lucy last Summer. Just thinking about him (and Lucy) makes me well up instantly still, despite that Daisy, who is a gorgeous little Yorkie x Cairn Terrier and Humphrey, who is a Yorkie x Dachshund and who we adopted several weeks ago, fill me with joy. I'll tell you more about them soon and post their pics.

I'm reluctant to say I've been in a depression because I've known a helluva lot worse and I keep taking the tabs! having a bloody awful time with the Menopause isn't helping, not to mention the political situation (which as Ive said before!) is enough to make anyone want to dig a hole in their back yard and make like a mole.

Having said all that, I've not changed...still rescuing the occasional hedgehog (the last one was found and released at a school I worked in) and Ive been learning Reiki which has helped me to feel better - and hopefully, help others to feel better too. Next step Level 3.

Thank you all for still being here and being so kind (bleary eyed typing!). UT - there will be something in the post for you to return your kindness - I love you, you soft bugger.

KatRobin

PS Ponygurl - Im very sorry to hear you've got that neck prob too. Mine is actually nearly 100% better now - I had the shoulder op in March and still punishing myself with physio and having acupuncture, but it too is getting better. So I hope you feel better and get the same treatment I had very soon. I can lend you a very natty neck collar (Reiki infused and with the occasional itchy dog hair) if it helps! x

Ponygurl

You faced a series of losses Kat, I feel your pain in that sense too. It’s hard to recover, and I find many people don’t see isolation as a form of self-preservation..but it’s like fuck, I can’t handle one more fucked event, I’m staying in bed..lol. It’s a long journey isn’t it- I mean healing both psychologically from loss and the real physical pain this earthly existence can bring. I think we push ourselves to keep going, going, going out of necessity- then we have some kind of break-down, mentally, physically or both. I know when I was younger, I would put up with so much bullshit..from employers, family, lovers, etc. I just don’t have that kind of endurance anymore- I’m tired of the bullshit!

It’s a funny thing with physical pain. I’m the kind of person who will still go to work if I’m sick or injured, but it compounds my stress. I need to just focus on myself for once and fit some rest and therapy in. I’m so glad you’ve done the physical healing! You’re on your way @KatRobin, one step at a time.

Oh, one more big stressor I’ll tell you about- my mom. She was diagnosed with Degenerative Disc Disease and is now in a wheelchair. I’ve been her primary caregiver recently, and she’s this OCD, Narcissistic biatch to me. She’s never been the motherly type- aka. she’s the master and I’m her slave. She runs me. She’s widowed and I’d feel so guilty putting her in assisted living, but she’s trying to destroy me.

So, yeah. Things are fucked at the mo’

Ponygurl

@KatRobin Ps. I’m so happy to see you back! We’ll bring each other out of our proverbial shells. Give a kiss to the tortoises for me, lol :x

KatRobin

I will. And I have two baby Giant African Land Snails now too- Gumboot and Squeegee! they're not really snog gable size yet but I'll pass on your affection lol.

IM me and I'll send you a Reiki distance healing xx

KatRobin

That should say Gumfoot!

Urban_Tribesman

Bless you Kat!
What she doesn’t tell you, assembled #FrappFam, is that she kindly sent me one of her paintings. It now sits on the wall in our hall, right by the side of one of Lisa’s (Mrs UT).
Hope my little Llama trinket turned up last week Ms KR !

Urban_Tribesman

whispered

Hello @KatRobin !

How great to hear from you, even if the news isnt all that good.

Seems like we are all suffering a bit. Maybe the bad vibes emanating from the centres of Badpower are poisoning us all. My own excuse for not posting much here is because my lupus has realised it hasnt yet given full attention to my neuro- system, so I now have migraines most days and screens are a prime trigger - so 10 minutes a day is my limit. :(

Keep doing that art though, Kat, and maybe even post some here?

And @Ponygurl - please dont feel guilty about assisted living for your mother. I watched my ex- brother in law giving up his life to look after his mother and it made him bitter and angry - and he still hated himself at the end of it.. In that kind of relationship, nothing you do will ever be good enough.

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