So sorrry, Folksie.  I hope you find a way over that hurdle soon.  I'm sure, when you do, it will be spectacular.  What ponygurl is saying seems to make sense.  When my company was taken over by another, I found that the phrase, "fuck 'em" worked very well for me, when others would come complaining about something the big, bad new company had done.  It's quite a stress reliever.  Heck, I don't know, maybe just singing in front of one or two people close to you might help?  And, keep building up one person at a time.  Then, throw in the occassional (supportive) stranger? Um, I'm actually thinking of mode_devotion, since he lives somewhere near you, as a possibility for a supportive stranger - after you are comfortable with singing with folks close to you.  I think there are one or two others on here that might be aviable, also.